Sunday, November 09, 2008

United States Map

A father wanted to read a magazine but was being bothered by his little girl, Shelby.

She wanted to know what the United States looked like, he tore a sheet out of his new magazine on which was printed the map of the country.

Tearing it into small pieces, he gave it to Shelby, and said, 'Go into the other room and see if you can put this together. This will show you our whole country today.'

After a few minutes, Shelby returned and handed him the map, correctly fitted and taped together. The father was surprised and asked how she had finished so quickly.

'Oh,' she said, 'On the other side of the paper is a picture of Jesus. When I got Jesus back where He belonged, then our country just came together.'

Thursday, October 30, 2008

'Pastor, what is this?'

One Sunday morning, the pastor noticed little Alex standing in the foyer of the church staring up at a large plaque covered with names and small American flags mounted on either side of it.

The six-year old had been staring at the plaque for some time, so the pastor walked up, stood beside the little boy, and said quietly, 'Good morning Alex.'

'Good morning Pastor,' he replied, still focused on the plaque. 'Pastor, what is this?

The pastor said, 'Well son, it's a memorial to all the young men and women who died in the service.' Soberly, they just stood together... staring at the large plaque.

Finally, little Alex's voice, barely audible and trembling with fear asked, 'Which service - the 8:30 or the 10:45?'

Sunday, October 19, 2008

This Should Keep Us All Thinking...

Just got this one in an email from my sister... What a message! Obiously you can't exactly forward this page, but feel free to forward a link to the blog, or go to the youtube site directly by clicking here.

On the site under more info it says:
I know a lot of people are saying the story isn't true, but it doesn't matter if it's true or not, its the message in the story.
    Songs:
    First is "It Ends Tonight" by The All-American Rejects
    Second is "Tomorrow" by Avril Lavigne
Definitely will make you go hmmm...
Johnny:)

Friday, October 17, 2008

Where's Dad?

Back again... another year gone by. Not sure about you, but for me it hasn't gotten any easier. Different - but certainly not easier.

Here a while back - while dropping Elijah off at a friends house near Dad & Trish's old neighborhood - I detoured to drive past the old house. Guess what? No Dad to be found.

Fathers Day, when I stopped by Mt Tahoma? He wasn't there either!

So where IS Dad? I've searched for 2 years now. I've looked for that place to go when I really need to find him. Well, on this the 2nd (for lack of any better words at this early hour) anniversary of Dad's passing... I wonder no more.

I took today off work. Looking ahead, I kinda expected this day would probably have it's ups & downs - highs & lows - hills & valleys (I'm sure you get the idea), so I planned ahead and took a vacation day. But how do I spend it? Where do I go to be with Dad?

That's where the learning came in. Dad always told me Dina was smarter than I am... I guess last night, that point was proven once again.

As we chatted about todays plans, I was rambling through pros and cons of visiting Tahoma again. Being the eternal optimist she is - Dina suggested going somewhere else to spend the day with Dad. Somewhere I'm certain to find him.

Like McDonald's or Starbucks for a cup of coffee & bit of the morning paper... that sounds like it might be a good place to start ...I bet I'd find him there!

Maybe a surprise visit to the school (Dina's there running school pictures today) or a family member or friends office to say 'hi' - just cause 'I was in the neighborhood' ...I bet I'd find him there!

A trip to South Hill could be a great place for a walk and some frugal shopping at Target ...I bet I'd find him there!

Dina reminded me that there are tons of places to find Dad. Some expected & searched for - like Starbucks or the mall. Others, possibly just a glimpse of him in passing - like in my sons as they get more & more grown up, or even in my own reflection in the mirror from time-to-time.

I know Dina misses him as much as I do. But while I frequently catch myself in the midst of little pity parties, she's reminding me to search for the silver linings... a lot like Dad used to do!

Take a look around as you go through your day ...I bet you find him there, too!
Pedro:)

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Splendour in the Grass...

What though the radiance which was once so bright, be now for ever taken from my sight. Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower.

We will grieve not, rather find strength in what remains behind.

In the primal sympathy which having been must ever be; In the soothing thoughts that spring out of human suffering; In the faith that looks through death; In years that bring the philosophic mind.

-William Wordsworth
(Ode: Intimations of Immortality from Recollections of Early Childhood, 175-186)

Thursday, October 02, 2008

Making Pancakes...

Got this email from a friend that, like Dad used to do, gets & sends bunches of email every day. Sadly, many times (due mostly to lack of time) I scan through to see if anything other than the preverbial forwards, etc... deleting some of them (sorry, Betty) without paying much mind.

This one (of the 7 I received tonight) stuck out for some reason. Nice little story, so thought I'd post it here.

Johnny:)
You're the only person that can control how your day goes tomorrow... Make it a GREAT one!
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MAKING PANCAKES
Six year-old Brandon decided one Saturday morning to fix his parents pancakes. He found a big bowl and spoon, pulled a chair to the counter, opened the cupboard and pulled out the heavy flour canister, spilling it on the floor.

He scooped some of the flour into the bowl with his hands, mixed in most of a cup of milk and added some sugar, leaving a floury trail on the floor which by now had a few tracks left by his kitten. Brandon was covered with flour and getting frustrated.

He wanted this to be something very good for Mom and Dad, but it was getting very bad. He didn't know what to do next, whether to put it all into the oven or on the stove and he didn't know how the stove worked! Suddenly he saw his kitten licking from the bowl of mix and reached to push her away, knocking the egg carton to the floor. Frantically he tried to clean up this monumental mess but slipped on the eggs, getting his pajamas white and sticky.

Just then he saw Dad standing at the door. Big crocodile tears welled up in Brandon 's eyes. All he'd wanted to do was something good, but he'd made a terrible mess. He was sure a scolding was coming, maybe even a spanking. But his father just watched him.

Then, walking through the mess, he picked up his crying son, hugged him and loved him, getting his own pajamas white and sticky in the process!

That's how God deals with us.. We try to do something good in life, but sometimes it turns into a mess. Our marriage gets all sticky or we insult a friend, or we can't stand our job, or our health goes sour. Sometimes we just stand there in tears because we can't think of anything else to do.

That's when God picks us up and loves us and forgives us... even though some of our mess gets all over Him.

But just because we might mess up - we can't stop trying to 'make pancakes'. Sooner or later we'll get it right, and then we'll be glad we tried...

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

In Loving Memory!

Michael's been gone a whole year already... hard to believe, I know!

As I tried to think of something to say - I ran across this from his Mom, posted on Michael's myspace page.

Hope you don't mind me stealing your words, li'l sis... I thought they were more appropriate than anything I could have written.

Love & miss you, Mickey Roy!
Uncle John:)
_____

Sep 17 2008 10:21 PM

Hey baby boy! Just got home from a candlelight memorial in your honor! You wouldn't believe the friends you have! There were so many that came to show their love for you - it was so amazing! You're still missed very much by all your friends and family, especially me!

I can't believe you've been gone a year! Some days it seems like yesterday but others it seems like eternity! I miss you so much it hurts - but you'd be proud of how strong I've been. I even held myself together tonight, just for you!

The moon came up huge and red tonight! Thought it was fitting, your favorite color! I know you were there with us! I love you with all my heart!! Good night sweet one!

I miss you! ~ Mom

Sunday, August 10, 2008

You can let go now, Daddy!

Ever hear a song that tells your story? My li'l sister did a while back. From learning to ride a bike, right up to the hospital room... as TL put it, "Why do they write theses things?"

Here's the video...
Pedro:)



Crystal Shawanda - You Can Let Go

Wind blowin’ on my face
Sidewalk flyin’ beneath my bike
A five year-old’s first taste
Of what freedom’s really like
He was runnin’ right beside me
His hand holdin’ on the seat
I took a deep breath and hollered
As I headed for the street

You can let go now, Daddy
You can let go
Oh, I think I’m ready
To do this on my own
It’s still a little bit scary
But I want you to know
I’ll be ok now, Daddy
You can let go

I was standin’ at the altar
Between the two loves of my life
To one I’ve been a daughter
To one I soon would be a wife
When the preacher asked,
‘Who gives this woman?’
Daddy’s eyes filled up with tears
He kept holdin’ tightly to my arm
‘Till I whispered in his ear

You can let go now, Daddy
You can let go
Oh, I think I’m ready
To do this on my own
It still feels a little bit scary
But I want you to know
I’ll be ok now, Daddy
You can let go

It was killin’ me to see
The strongest man I ever knew
Wastin’ away to nothin’
In that hospital room
‘You know he’s only hangin’ on for you’
That’s what the night nurse said
My voice and heart were breakin’
As I crawled up in his bed, and said

You can let go now, Daddy
You can let go
Your little girl is ready
To do this on my own
It’s gonna be a little bit scary
But I want you to know
I’ll be ok now, Daddy
You can let go
You can let go...

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Welcome to Walmart!

Well, we made it past the anniversary, for lack of a better term, of Dad's aneurism.

Regardless of which method you use to mark "the anniversary" - the date itself; or the 3rd Sunday of July (yes, that's pronounced joo-lie) or the 197th day of the year - another one has passed. 2 years ago? Can you believe it's been soooo long!

Anyway, to try and lighten things up (at least for me)... I'm posting an e-mail I really think Dad would've got a chuckle out of. You may not consider it politically correct, but since I write these pages mostly for me... you'll just have to deal with it.

Hopefully you enjoy it, too!
John:)
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There I was on my way to shop at Walmart. Getting into a fight was the farthest thing from my mind. It wasn't even on the horizon. I was in a great mood!

And then... I rear-ended a car!

So there we are alongside the road and slowly the driver gets out of the car (and you know how you just get sooo stressed and life-stuff seems to get funny)? Yeah, well, I could NOT believe it... He was a DWARF!

He storms over to my car, looks up at me and says, 'I AM NOT HAPPY!'

So, I look down at him and say, 'Well, which one are you then?' And that's when the frickin fight started.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Thursday, June 26, 2008

TOGETHER has Power - Don't Run Alone!

Want to hear a fantastic story of a Fathers love? You may have heard or seen it before, but this morning I got an e-mail from my other Dad, Ralph.

Either way, it's certainly a story worth (re)telling, so I'm passing along a video to tell the story of a father and son... TOGETHER!

Keep the Kleenex handy!
Johnny:)

I can do everything through HIM who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13 (NIV)
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From Ralph's e-mail:
A son asked his father, ‘Dad, will you take part in a marathon with me?’ The father who, despite having a heart condition, said ‘Yes’. They went on to complete the marathon together.

Father and son went on to join other marathons - the father always saying ‘Yes’ to his son’s request of going through the race together.

One day, the son asked his father, ‘Dad, let’s join the Ironman together.’ To which, his father said ‘Yes’. Father and son went on to complete the Ironman race together.

Click play... talk about INSPIRING!



Dick and Rick Hoyt are a father-and-son team from Massachusetts who together compete just about continuously in marathon races. And if they’re not in a marathon they are in a triathlon — that daunting, almost superhuman, combination of 26.2 miles of running, 112 miles of bicycling, and 2.4 miles of swimming. Together they have climbed mountains, and once trekked 3,770 miles across America.


For info on being a part of Team Hoyt's 2009 Charity Teams, click on the "Join Us" button.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

My Dad - My Hero!

What can I say on Father's Day? Dad really is my hero!

My day started with a visit to Mt Tahoma. Then on returning home for brunch, I was reminded how truly blessed I am. A wonderful wife; 2 glorious kids; great parents - plus so many unbelievable memories! WOW... what a life!

God Bless & Happy Father's Day!
Pedro:)


For a special Father's Day treat click play below. Then kick back, listen & enjoy! -JE

Father's Day - Buddy Ellis The Doo Bee's of Daddyhood; June 18th, 2006 (FBC of Lakewood)

Saturday, June 07, 2008

Interview with Jesus?

There's some powerpoint presentations going around again by email lately. In fact, I received a good one from Trish yesterday called Happiness is a Voyage. Want me to forward it? Shoot me a note & I'll share. It's definitely worth watching.

But, I digress. I received a link to the movie below. Kind of an online powerpoint, so thought it fit the theme. The site - Interview with Jesus - lets you view movies, and links to their store where you can buy the movies on dvd, plus books and more.

No, I'm not their newest salesman... just hoping by offering the links to their stuff, that posting one of their movies here would be alright.

Anyway... ENJOY!
Johnny:)

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

What's in the box?

Here's an e-mail that I received today from a customer. I've seen it many times before, but it's one of those e-mails that even seeing it over and over... it still rings true. Hope you enjoy it.

It had been some time since Jack had seen the old man. College, girls, career, and life itself got in the way.

In fact, Jack moved clear across the country in pursuit of his dreams.

There, in the rush of his busy life, Jack had little time to think about the past and often no time to spend with his wife and son. He was working on his future, and nothing could stop him.

Over the phone, his mother told him, "Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday." Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days.

"Jack, did you hear me?"

"Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said.

"Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over 'his side of the fence' as he put it," Mom told him.

"I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said.

You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stopped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said

"He's the one who taught me carpentry," he said. "I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important... Mom, I'll be there for the funeral," Jack said.

As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Belser's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away.

The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time.

Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time. The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture... Jack stopped suddenly.

"What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked.

"The box is gone," he said

"What box?" Mom asked.

"There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was 'the thing I value most,'" Jack said.

It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it.

"Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom."

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died. Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. "Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read.

Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. "Mr. Harold Belser" it read.

Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside.

"Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It's the thing I valued most in my life."

A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch.

Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words engraved: Jack, Thanks for your time! -Harold Belser

"The thing he valued most was... my time?"

Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. "Why?" Janet, his assistant asked.

"I need some time to spend with my son," he said. "Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!"

To everyone that reads this... Thanks for your time!
Johnny:)

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away! -Hilary Cooper

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Just stopping by...

I stopped by Fir Lane the other day to visit Michael's gravesite.

I never really figured that I'd be much for hanging out at any cemetery...

Turns out that it can actually be a good place to gather my thoughts and reflect when needed.

Dad's gravesite's up at Tahoma Nat'l Cemetery - a bit too far for just dropping by when the moment strikes me. But Fir Lane? I've been there a number of times since Mickey's funeral. It's close to home and turns out - it's a place where I can (odd as it may be) visit with Dad and Mickey at the same time & place.

I know that up in heaven, Mike's probably peeking down from time-to-time. For sure he's hanging out with Grandpa a lot, too! So, it seems likely that Dad could be with him when he's peeking sometimes, right?

Okay, so maybe I live in a dream world... but you gotta do what gets you through!

Tomorrow (well actually today, I guess) marks 18-month since Dad left. After all those months, I'm still not comfortable with what to call it. No matter the words - death, passed away, etc. - they all still mean he's gone.

Now, don't get me wrong. It's not that I don't spend time remembering the good times, too. Of course, I do. His smiles; his laugh; the way enjoyed time with Trish, us kids, and of course... his grandkids. His love of God, family, friends & food. Sharing a ball game or a crime drama on TV. The grown man he was, and the little child he showed all of us he (and we) could be.

Remembering the good times also makes it crystal clear that those memories are all we get!

People tell me that with time, I'll get past the pain and the tears. But in all actuality, I certainly hope not.

I heard this quote by playwright, Tom Stoppard...

We cross our bridges when we come to them and burn them behind us, with nothing to show for our progress except a memory of the smell of smoke, and a presumption that once our eyes watered.


I don't want to have to presume that once my eyes watered. The fact that they still water, tells me those memories I hold onto continue to have a lasting impression on my life, as well as many of the lives of those around me.

Like I said, just stopping by!
John:)

Wednesday, March 05, 2008

Character Counts...

If you knew my Dad, you knew Politically Correct was NOT something he was often accused of being.

But one thing for sure, he DID know how to love people! Based not on, as Dr Martin Luther King Jr sad so eloquently, "...the color of their skin but by the content of their character".

Many times I had the definition of character tossed my way by Dad... Who I am when nobody is watching. Yes, Dad definitely knew good character! How's your character... Who are you when nobody's watching?

Dad loved the book Character Counts: Who's Counting Yours? The author, Rod Handley and his family, have been friends of the family since I was young.

I read something that described the book as a practical tool for helping people who desire to be people of character and integrity.

In this crazy world we live in - whether at home or away; at work or at school; at the grocery store or the voting booth - anywhere we go, we should strive to be people whose character is beyond reproach. And it takes accountability and support from those around you to succeed.

Character does count... who IS counting yours?

God Bless...
Johnny:)

ps: I started this post in late January (for MLK Day). Not very timely anymore, but at least I finally pressed the 'publish post' button.
je

Wednesday, January 09, 2008

Happy Anniversary!



Can you believe it's been 21 years and counting for Dina & I? For Dad & Trish, it would've been 26.

Boy, I wish it was Dad singing 'Happy Anniversary', but I guess this will have to do (click the play button to view the video above)!

Happy Anniversary!
Johnny:)